Category Archives: Unlearning All

Years later, Still feel married. Why? It has been 2 years since the divorce, with a  1 ½ year separation before. Why do I still feel married? Was it how things were left?  Never dreamed I would need to fight my husband of over 30 years with the help of a lawyer. Am I hangingContinue reading “Years Later, Still Feel Married.”

Even after Two years… Still can’t say the “D” word.  I can spell it D.I.V.O.R.C.E.  There is an old country western song by Tammy Wynette titled D.I.V.O.R.C.E. In the song, she spells it because she doesn’t want her little boy to understand what is happening. This was a popular song when I was a littleContinue reading “Even After Two Years…”

Connecting with the amnesiac character in “Before we were us”.  A book talk. I picked this book up from the library for some light reading and found myself emotionally connected to the lead character’s memory loss. The story begins where Lauren is out with her boyfriend Jonah and he is about to propose. Of courseContinue reading “Could I Be Losing My Mind?”

It starts by reading this… When my children were little, they would sometimes say they were bored. I would respond with…good! Let your brain rest. They usually went off grumbling, not completely satisfied with my answer. Fortunately, my children rarely needed entertaining. Even today as adults they can sit and be. It is wonderful whenContinue reading “How to be Bored”

Thought you’d be happier Many said after I quit. My teaching career of over 20 years.  The stress was unbearable and felt like I was spinning my wheels.  People were shocked. Mostly because a person doesn’t just up and quit her job.  Especially after years of hard work, dedication, and with a master’s degree.  SoContinue reading “Thought You’d Be Happier”

So I became a teacher as an adult. I mean why not? I was going to change how school looked. Make it different for kids. Fun and exciting! Think as a kid I knew something was off about school. I never felt good enough. Rarely got high grades. Teachers didn’t seem to like or knowContinue reading “Hated school as a kid!”

Toxic potential? Never thought being too positive would be a bad thing. Right? How can that be? I could proudly turn any situation into something positive, no matter what I was feeling. I could talk someone down off a cliff. Find the brighter side! I thought that was what it meant to be a goodContinue reading “Just Be Positive”

Yup these surprised me too. Yoga, spiritual readings, and alternative practices…   In my late twenties, I had a huge health scare to the point where I was in the hospital for weeks and nearly died. It took many hospital stays, surgeries, and about a year to sorta recover. And being so young, I did notContinue reading “Looking for peace in all the wrong places. Part II”

This was one of my first posts on Medium in the fall of 2024 (which I was later banned from). Not sure why I started with peace. Maybe it helped me understand where my deep healing journey started, and maybe it could give others insight into starting to find peace. Part 1: The endless degreesContinue reading “Looking for peace in all the wrong places.”

1st decade: 1-10 Grew up in Bismarck, North Dakota. In a trailer park on the south side of the track, which was considered trashy in the 70s. There, I mostly played in the street and lived in a tiny house before they were cool.  2nd decade: 10-20 Normal teenage life. Had super strict Catholic parents.Continue reading “Leader of the Parade by Decades”